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Exposing 6 Myths About Self-Care

Performative self-care routines have swept the internet and have dominated the wellness world. As people continue justifying anything that encourages indulgence, the term "self-care" has become a buzzword. We all know that when a term becomes public domain the actual meaning is open to interpretation, so we're seeing self-care being defined quite loosely.

The entire benefit of self-care is to nurture one's mental, social, emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being, but it's imperative to sift through the misconceptions of how self-care is branded. As you dive deeper into your journey of self-exploration, you'll develop an individualized concept of self-care and won't be phased by new trends. So let's peel back some of the layers to expose some of the myths around self-care.

Myth: self-care is selfish.

Self-care is not selfish and anyone who wants to convince you otherwise does not love you. Now, the way you go about asserting your need for self-care can be selfish, but the idea of pouring back into yourself is harmless. The way you choose to go about that is strictly up to you, but you don't have to feel guilty for needing to refill your cup. There's nothing wrong with prioritizing your well-being.

Myth: self-care has to be solo.

The social component of self-care doesn't get the recognition it deserves. Self-care can be going dancing with your best friend, having a coffee date with your mom, taking your niece/nephews to the mall, volunteering at the senior home, or enjoying happy hour at the local dive bar. Social experiences can be enriching to the soul, and are necessary to create balance in our lives. There's always so much emphasis on the "self" part, that we forget it can involve other people.

Myth: self-care is one size fits all.

It doesn't matter what your favorite influencer does for their self-care routine, you do not have to do what they do! You can take some notes as a point of research and reference, but you don't have to build an entire self-care practice around what you saw on social media. Just as people are unique, the way they nurture their bodies, spirits, and emotions should also be unique.

Myth: self-care is only for women.

Wellness has always been a woman's playground and it's been a female-dominated industry for decades. But men have been spearheading movements in the wellness industry, and it's quite refreshing to see. From mental health support groups and emotional and spiritual healing spaces, to openly speaking about skincare and hygiene, men are continuously showing up and being intentional about their existence. I love to see it!

Myth: self-care is too time-consuming.

Making time for self-care can feel like a task, especially if you have a demanding workload, or have small children to provide for. Carving out time can feel like an uphill battle, but don't let it frustrate you. Curb your ambition by setting manageable goals for self-care sessions, with simple things like walks outside, or treating yourself to a cup of tea, or a ten-minute meditation.

Myth: self-care has to involve spending money.

Money doesn't buy happiness. Though it does afford comfort, money itself is not the gateway to relaxation or peace of mind. There are plenty of things you can do to recalibrate yourself without having to spend money. Don't let these influencers fool you!

Understanding that self-care is not always extravagant, selfish, or time-consuming is so necessary for this journey you're on! Knowing that it’s more about cultivating habits and practices that nourish your mind, body, and soul is the main thing that will help you flourish. Debunking these myths will help us embrace a more authentic and sustainable approach to self-care that truly nurtures our well-being.

Hopefully, this article helps you reframe the narratives around your self-care practice. What will you be doing differently? Let me know in the comments below!

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until next time

peace + purple


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