8 Approaches to Enhancing Self Love
The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone of every other relationship in your life. Becoming your own best friend will not only enhance your quality of life, but will also make the friendships around you more fulfilling. Let me share with you my advice on how to love, respect, and love yourself. You might want to stick around, because the relationship you have with yourself is the only relationship that will last for your lifetime.
1. Don't be afraid to say No
You can reject conversations and company that is harmful to your perception of self. As you're building a stronger relationship with yourself you might be sensitive and easily triggered. Don't feel obligated engage in ANYTHING that might lessen your self-esteem for the sake of making others happy.
2. Enjoy your time alone
Spending time with yourself can be one of the most exhilarating things you can ever do. Take yourself out on a date. Do the things you've always wanted to do that nobody else would want to join in on. Get lost in a familiar place by trying new restaurants, taking new routes, and discovering something new and beautiful about your surroundings.
4. Accept yourself
Accept yourself for all that you are, and accept yourself for what you are not. In order to improve the relationship you have with yourself, you have to be realistic with the areas that need strengthening. Being in denial about your weakness is the same as living in a false reality. When that happens, the journey to manifesting a healthy relationship with yourself will be long, painful and seemingly endless.
3. Be accountable
You are responsible for your own attractions. You are responsible for your own decisions. You are responsible for how you emotionally respond to events and situations in your life. When you step into your accountability, you render everyone else powerless in being able to manipulate your emotions to thinking something was "their fault". It's never anyone else's fault.
5. Improve your body image
Implement hugging yourself into your morning routine. Massage your knees, legs, and neck. Reward your limbs with 15 minute stretches in the morning and at bedtime. Give yourself compliments in the mirror while dancing naked to your favorite music. Thank your organs for doing their job every time you eat or drink something. This might seem silly, but we sometimes take for granted that our bodies will digest food regularly, especially when we eat things that aren't very good for us.
6. Write yourself a love letter
Give yourself the love that you deserve. Remind yourself that you are worthy. Your esteem should be fancied everyday, not just when another person compliments you or shows you some attention. This should familiarize yourself with receiving love on a consistent basis, not just when someone thinks of you.
7. Know what's good vs what's bad
It's possible that some people may find your perception and demonstration of self love to be self-destructive, but only you can decide that. You are the only person who knows your every waking thought, therefore nobody else should be able to infiltrate your consciousness to convince you that something is bad for you. If you have evaluated and accepted the reality of how the effects and impact of certain actions or endeavors, don't allow people's opinions to dissuade you. If you can look yourself in the mirror and sleep soundly at night, there may not be room for further evaluation.
8. Set boundaries with your lovers
Don't be afraid to reject anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries. A person who takes you seriously and wants you in their life won't guilt you into spending time with them and doing things for them. They will be understanding if you don't have the time or energy to entertain them, and will respect your need for alone time.
Never be ashamed of making yourself a priority. Eat foods that promote wellness, and never deny yourself pleasure. You are special and nobody can take that from you.
Q: What are some of the ways you approach enhancing the relationship you have with yourself?