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7 Ways to Overcome Body Insecurity

Like most women, I experienced a stage in life where my relationship with my body was very awkward. My body insecurity used to be through the roof. I used to be so self-conscious about my body, I wore baggy clothes to hide myself from the world. I liked my shape, but was insecure about the not so flattering parts like my stretch marks, sagging breasts, and the shake of my thighs and arms. Don't let me get started on the kankles of freshman 15...thousand!!!

I also hated the "skinny girl rolls" on my stomach. I used to spend hours staring at photos of women who had perfectly sculpted abs and asses just to give myself closure but I ended up hating myself even more. I exercised, but not nearly enough to get the results I wanted. My body goals were achievable but unattainable, because all I would ever do was sink further into self loathing because I continued waking up in a less than perfect body. It wasn't a bad body, but it was the body that I had, and didn't want.

I did weird things like deprive myself of the foods I loved because in effort to decrease my bloating. I was guilty of starting fitness challenges, and stopping midway because I was dejected and out of touch with myself.

Every other day I was disappointed with myself because I was not getting the results I wanted, but it was because my intentions were not aligned with my desires. Wanting a nicer looking body is a great goal to have, but my reasons were not rooted in loving myself. My reasons for improvement were not rooted in becoming healthier. I wanted to look better for vanity's sake. I had to take several steps back and realize I was actually killing myself from the inside out, and the suicide began in my mind.

Self hatred is really a shapeshifting disease, and the symptoms vary from one person to the next. Body insecurity is crippling, but it is curable. A huge part of healing is being able to recognize that you have a problem, but understanding that the problem doesn't have to weigh you down and rule your life forever. I promise you, there is light on the other end of the tunnel, and I want to help guide you in that direction. Here's my advice on how to overcome body insecurity.

1. Dance naked for one hour everyday.

Sweat out your insecurities! Draw the blinds, strip down, cue your favorite song, and let your hind parts flap to the beat, baby! Dance like nobody's watching, except you should watch yourself in the mirror.

2. Eat nourishing foods

People don't realize how much food impacts their mood. If you're constantly consuming fast food, greasy foods, or processed snacks that are high in sugar and sodium, it's likely that you'll be more anxious and moody. You have to eat foods that are good to you and good for you. Instead of reaching for the potato chips, try a trail mix. Replace processed sugars with natural sugars from fruit and fresh pressed juices.

3. Do enjoyable and fun exercises

Nobody will ever tell you this, but it is OK to exercise just enough to be healthy. Working out should be fun, not a chore. You know what happens when you treat exercise like a chore? You hate it and you fall off.. Simply add a fifteen minute walk into your day. Opt for the stairs instead of the elevator. Stop calling uber for that 5 minute trek up the road. You don't have to do brutal exercises just to make yourself feel accomplished.

4. Watch the way you talk to yourself

Stop with the insults. Calling yourself stupid, even when you accidentally put something in the wrong place causes your mind to normalize low frequencies. Just because you're saying it to yourself doesn't make it any better, your mind doesn't know the difference between the insults that come from you and the insults that come from others. Challenge yourself to say 5 positive self loving affirmations per day.

5. Don't mock or make light of your insecurities.

Your insecurities are real, and they need addressing. Admit that you have areas that need strengthening, and try to align yourself opportunities and outlets that help you build your confidence.

6. Spend time with others who love themselves

Your vibe attracts your tribe. You need to spend time around people who love themselves, and who hold themselves accountable for their lives and success. Spending time with Negative Nancy's and people who don't believe in themselves will bring you down.

7. Unfollow any and everything that makes you feel bad about yourself

Including your friends. Including people you know. You don't have to feel guilty about admitting what causes you to feel negatively about yourself. If you can't handle seeing images of a certain someone, then you don't have to subject yourself to it, if it causes you to feel negatively. You don't have to follow social media influencers who paint a perfect picture of their lives if their media causes you to feel bad about yourself. Be honest, and never ashamed of doing what you need to do for yourself.

What's some of your favorite advice for crushing body insecurity?